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Are you doing all that you can to help your child succeed in life? PT2

November 12, 2010

Are you doing all that you can to help your child succeed in life? PT2
By Janice S Ramkissoon

Neglect of Parental Responsibilities

When we neglect our responsibilities as parents, we contribute to the breakdown of society. We release these children into their adult years, unprepared. So as adults, they are still waiting to be taught and so they make-up the rules as they go along. But it was never a child’s responsibility to go and find knowledgeit was always the parent’s duty to train up that child.

With the lack of training, and still under the influence of the spirit of confusion, they join the workforce; scattered across society in every profession. They become fathers, mothers, husbands, wives and the cycle begins again.

Then we complain about the break-down of society when we contributed to it in the first place. This puts pressure on the government system to provide more in the way of social services: caring for the elderly and the widowed; orphans; mental care facilities, extra teachers support/ mentors, after-school care etc. which results in increase of taxes and insurances we pay.

It all boils down to the parenting aspect. Unless parents take up the role of parenting, society will continue to deteriorate. It is time for the complaints to cease. We need to start acting in a responsible way, using the bible as our guide. Let the children be children and let the parents start to teach.

Parents with unresolved Childhood Issues

Now, if you are a parent who has issues from childhood, you need to deal with those issues so you can be free from captivity; be healed so you can start to operate in your role as a parent. God has given you a giftthe precious gift of a child, born into your care. He also gave us instructions on how to care for these precious children. He left us with instructions on how to handle every situation that comes our way while training these children. Children should not be paying for the mistakes of their parents or their parents’ parents. We need to stop asking God to change these childrenHe has already answered us through His Word. It is for us to heed those words; educate ourselves by daily feeding on His Word so we can receive the daily strength we need to carry out this important task. There is no greater responsibility than to train up a child in the way that he or she should go/grow.

The task Ahead

It is not an easy roleit’s the most challenging, but I guarantee that if you apply God’s instructions, it becomes the most rewarding of any job you’ve ever done or ever will do. It’s a privilege, not everyone has. So, if you are one of the chosen ones to help in training up these children, then say: ‘Yes Lord! I will.’ And God will see to it that your days are blessed beyond measure.

You can do it! There is nothing impossible with God. My life could have had a different story, considering the lack of parental training. But today, I too have the responsibility of training up a child, based on God’s instructions. It’s a choice I have like any other parent. It isn’t always easy. And sometimes the fears do come and I wish I had more support but I am still left with a choice just like you. I had the choice to let go of my past hurt and be renewed (so I could be all that my child needed me to be) or hold onto to the past with all the resentment and feed this negativity, through my actions, to my child. I chose to let go of the past and allow God to renew a right spirit within me. It was the right choice because today, I’m reaping the rewards.

Choose the ways of Christ

I would encourage you to choose the ways of Christ. Follow His instructions, let go of the past. It is just another yoke around your neck. But God’s yoke is easy and His burden is light. Exchange your yoke for His and receive the life He promised youlife in abundance, according to John 10:10.

It’s a win/win situation when you submit to the teachings of Christ. In submission you chose life. He takes care of all your needs and what seemed complicated before, becomes simple. Having submitted your will to His, things that were hidden to you before will now be revealed. ‘The Lord’s searchlight penetrates the human spirit exposing every hidden motive.’ (Proverbs 20:27, NTL)

Getting to the Root of the Problem

With your eyes now opened, you can get to the root of that which finds your child/ren categorised as ‘rebellious’ instead of focusing on the rebellion. And for those, not yet in this category but heading down that street, you’ll know just what to do; for ‘A prudent person foresees the danger ahead and takes precautions.’ (Proverbs 22:3a) But if you choose to ignore the instructions of the Lord you remain ‘the simpleton’ the latter part of this proverb speaks of, who ‘goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.’

So let us all do as the bible says, ‘Teach your children to choose the right path, and when they are older, they will remain upon it.’ (Proverbs 22:6) It is a ‘pleasure to have wise children, it brings joy to a father’s heart and happiness to a mother.’ So ask yourself each day ‘Am I doing the best that I can for my child/ren’. See if you measure up.

Janice S Ramkissoon 2008

Janice, a freelance writer, lives in the UK and enjoys spending time with her husband, Vince and their son, Javin. She uses her gift to encourage others towards a deeper relationship with God, through her inspirational pieces while her travel articles provide general advice for the holiday-maker.

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Tangled Reflections by LauraLee Shaw

November 8, 2010

Tangled Reflections
By LauraLee Shaw

The bathroom mirror reflected more than outward appearances that day. Nancy’s grim face was lined with frustration, and her eight-year-old daughter was shrieking with anger.

“Moooooom, You’re hurrrrrrrrting my head! STOP!” Splotchy patches of pink covered Melissa’s tear-stained face.

“I’ve told you a hundred times to comb your hair every day, Missy.” Nancy’s biting continued. “These are your consequences. When you don’t comb your hair out, it gets tangles. Then when you do try to comb your hair out, it hurts. It’s as simple as that.” She couldn’t help patterning the strokes of the hairbrush after the rhythm of her nagging tone.

“OUCH, not so hard, Mom. It hurrrts.”

Her shrill sobbing sent a twinge of pain through Nancy’s forehead. “Yeah, well it hurts me when you don’t obey me. Your room is a mess. The house is a mess. YOU’RE a mess.”

Having had enough of her mom’s condescending tone and painful grooming, Melissa shouted, “FINE, then give me the brush and I’LL fix it.” She yanked angrily away from her mother and grabbed the sweaty hairbrush from her.

“Go ahead, you do that!” Nancy slammed the bathroom door behind in a huff.

“I’m so sick of the whining. Doesn’t she know how much that grates on my nerves?” Nancy grabbed a wet towel off the floor and started up again. “Wrinkled wet towels get moldy, you know.”

As she stomped through Missy’s messy room, she stepped on a sharp Lego. “ow, Ow, OW!” She could still hear her daughter sobbing behind the closed door as she hopped on one foot through the hallway.

“Why do I even bother? NOBODY helps me around here, and I’m just so sick of all the mess. PLEASE STOP CRYING.”

“I hate it when you’re frustrated! Why can’t you just be patient?” Melissa lashed out at her mother loud enough for the whole neighborhood to hear.

Even through the walls, Melissa’s tantrum sent waves of frustration through Nancy’s body. She put her hands over her ears and proceeded to the kitchen. “Better start getting supper ready. Who even cares that I haven’t had a chance to clean up from lunch yet?” She slammed a pot down on the stove burner. “No ONE. That’s what I thought.”

She looked out her kitchen window and noticed a hummingbird outside as she washed her hands. Her stained-glass sun catcher reflected a convicting message: ‘And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7.’

All of a sudden, she noticed the house was totally silent. “Oh, thank goodness, she’s finally quit crying. I’m so sorry, Lord. Please help me to spread peace instead of anger.”

Nancy began to feel compassion for the small trauma that her daughter was experiencing and decided she would turn it into a teachable moment. “After all, I’m the mother,” she thought, “I’m supposed to be the calm one.” Before she could get to her, the wailing had begun again.

“Ma-maaaaaa. Help!”

Nancy ran the rest of the way. When she opened the bathroom door and looked at her daughter in the mirror, she could not believe her eyes. Although her heart was racing, she kept a tender tone. “Sweetheart, what did you do?”

Little Melissa was standing in a pile of jet-black hair. She sniffled and whimpered in between words. “I–was–sooo–mad–at–you. I wanted to make you mad, but now…” She looked in the mirror again and started to yowl. “Now look at iiiiiit. I look like a weeeirrrrrdoooo.”

Scooping Melissa up in her arms, she overcame the horror she felt at the sight of her beautiful daughter’s hair. It was ruined beyond help. Melissa’s school scissors lay on the vanity surrounded by locks of tangled curly hair.

“God, please help me work through this tangled mess I’ve made.”

“Sweet Missy, I am so sorry for my anger,” Nancy whispered into her daughter’s hair-filled ears. As she noticed a near bald spot right above her ear, she kissed it tenderly. “Next time we’re mad at each other, Mommy will just stop and say a prayer, ok?”

Melissa whimpered. “I’m sorry, too.” She dug her shagged hair into her mama’s neck. “I feel so ugly, Mama. Can we stop and pray now?”

Yes, the bathroom mirror reflected more than outward appearances that day. Nancy’s grim face was lined with regret, and her eight-year-old daughter was sobbing with sorrow. But the glorious reflection of God’s grace shone brightly through it all as they prayed.

*Scripture reference taken from the NIV.

LauraLee Shaw is a disciple of Jesus Christ disguised as a wife, mom and writer. She is a contributing author to “Women of Passions,” and a writer for “Internet Cafe Devotions.” You can visit LauraLee at
http://lovinthearts.blogspot.com
http://lovinthearts.com
http://www.internetcafedevotions.com

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If you are interested in guest posting…

November 8, 2010

If you are a Christian writer and would like to be a guest writer for “Conservative Homeschooler-Raising a Generation for Christ”, here are the guidelines for submitting work to be considered.

  1. Please allow us a week to review and respond to your inquiry. Consisting of a small staff, it takes us awhile to go through inquiries here and on our main website: http://conservativehomeschooler.com and we want to make sure that we don’t overlook your request.
  2. Work submitted must be uplifting and encouraging but not condemning and reflect a Biblical perspective. We are a conservative christian community and blog and seek to share articles that are geared toward strengthening or encouraging a believers journey.
  3. When including a biblical verse, please share what translation the verse or passage is from along with reference (i.e. John 3:16 KJV).
  4. Topics could range from homeschooling, parenting, geared toward biblical motherhood and femininity, fatherhood to just devotional articles or poems. Other ideas are are articles about Biblical truth, Creation, sanctity of human life, for teens, growing Christlike and the sovereignty of God.
  5. We are also interested in stories that reflect personal experience and what our Heavenly Father has done in your life.
  6. Please keep work to a minimum of 1,000 words.
  7. Submissions must be either in a .doc or open office format.
  8. Please include a short bio so we can properly credit the work to you. Bio can include your name, information about your website and what you normally write about. Feel free to include your fb fanpage and twitter link.
  9. No image submissions please.

What we do not accept:

  1. Work that is clearly anti-Christian or against other religions. We are here to uplift and encourage not condemn.
  2. Writings with bad language, violence, impure behaviour or occult references that have no biblical relevance will be immediately rejected.
  3. Writings that support or encourage illegal activities or recreational use of drugs or alcohol will be immediately deleted.

A great guide on what to write comes from the Bible itself:

1 Peter 3:15, “But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.” (NIV)


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Is Your Homeschool Hampered by Your “Addiction”? – Part 1

November 6, 2010

When I first started homeschooling 14 years ago, I developed a number of addictions. Not the life-threatening or dangerous to society ones, mind you. They appeared innocent enough, you might say even helpful, but in the long run they began to hamper my efforts. “Hello, my name is Pat, and I’m a homeschool addict” (“Hello, Pat!”) Now, don’t laugh – some of you already know what I mean. I became a free catalog addict, a homeschool magazine addict. I scoured the library and used book stores for “how to” books. I stayed glued to the internet (basic and lean as it was in those days) for resources, free worksheets, curriculum reviews. I ordered samples and accumulated portions of new curricula. I rationalized it by convincing myself that I was on a learning curve as well; that I was building a library; that I could stop anytime! The mounting stacks and piles and my bulging file cabinet was just a sign that I needed more shelves and storage, right? But late one night as I passed by the mirror in my room and looked into bloodshot eyes, the realization finally dawned on me – yes, I was addicted.

Well, I had to get it under control at least! There’s a phrase I heard recently that describes this phenomenon perfectly: appetite without activity. It perfectly described what I was experiencing, and what it causes is equally descriptive of what happened to me! Although the context in which I heard this phrase was spiritual (and I know you can apply it to health as well), what occurred in our homeschool was a veritable “freeze” in productive activity. I had so much information I didn’t know what to do with it all! I’d start the kids on one thing, and if I got the least bit of resistance, I’d switch. Don’t like worksheets? Let’s do a unit study! Too much activity there? Ok, back to a workbook. How about a pre-packaged curriculum? And don’t get me started on the gazillion resources to teach math that are available! My poor kids were going crazy – I, on the other hand, was already there.

I guess the beginning of my recovery occurred when I was talking to a good friend and mentor of mine, who had been homeschooling her 8 kids “forever”. I asked her how she chose materials for her brood. We talked a little about learning styles, and then she said to me “You know, there’s lots of good stuff out there; but don’t try it all at the expense of what’s best.” She wasn’t talking about resources, she was talking about me, my time, my presence in our children’s lives.

In the final analysis, it almost doesn’t matter what you use to homeschool your kids. And, truth be told, if you’re in this for the long haul, what you need will come to you. I could tell you tons of stories of how that played out while homeschooling our 2 oldest through high school – I could never have planned it out better! Find and stay connected to a good support group, and check your community for opportunities for your children. But whatever you use and whatever you do, do it with them to whatever extent possible. I use a workbook for my 3rd grade son’s math, but we always sit down to start it together. We review concepts, pull together a quick manipulative or 2 to get the idea across if need be, and then he’s on his own. We go to the Y for PE – together; watch videos and read historical fiction and make timelines for History – together; go to the library – together… get the picture?!

Here are 5 simple steps you can take (in no particular order) to break your addiction and get your school moving again.

  • Go outside with the kids! Take a walk, jump on the trampoline, plant (or weed) the garden. Just get moving and give yourself and your kids a break!
  • Ask the kids to pick out their favorite book and read to them or listen to them read. There’s nothing like snuggling on the couch with your kiddos around, reading something together, to bring you back to reality.
  • Call or – better yet – go visit a friend. Bring the kids – or not. And if it’s a homeschooling friend, you’re allowed to “talk shop” if need be. The point is to get a change of scenery.
  • Do something non-homeschool related! I know that sounds extreme, but I promise you’ll enjoy it. Even if it’s to grab a cup of coffee with a friend or neighbor, or meet your hubby for lunch.  This time, however, homeschool topics are not allowed.
  • Check out Is Your Homeschool Hampered by Your “Addiction”? – Part 2 with some more tips and suggestions!

Homeschooling can provide a wonderful education for your kids and provide ample opportunities for your family to grow and learn together – as long as you keep on moving on a productive and healthy path!!


Pat Fenner offers encouragement to homeschoolers at Help-4-Your-Homeschool.com. For monthly doses of encouragement, inspiration and ideas, sign up for her free newsletter “Sparks for the Flame”.

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Are you doing all that you can to help your child succeed in life? PT1

November 5, 2010

Are you doing all that you can to help your child succeed in life? PT1
By Janice S Ramkissoon

‘And now a word to you fathers. Don’t make your children angry by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction approved by the Lord.’ (Ephesians 6:4, NLT)

Parental Duties

Too often we believe that the duty of a ‘parent’ is simply to provide food and shelter for our children. For those who believe this and spend their lives doing just that I’m about to burst your bubble.

Food and shelter are basic needs and anyone can provide such needs. As parents, we are the main carer for our children. That means they look to us to provide for their every need. We ought to be their main educator. If we don’t teach them the things they ought to learn then someone else will soon assume that position and very often they listen to false teachers, which later find them subjected to the spirit of confusion.

Training a Child

We are charged with the responsibility of teaching our children. The bible says to ‘bring them up with the instruction approved by the Lord’ Eph 6:4(NLT). We need to stop and think about our responsibilities and act on them, for the sake of our children’s future, which directly affects our future. Proverbs 10:1 states: “a wise child brings joy to a father; a foolish child brings grief to a mother”. But, if as parents we do not train up our children in the right way then how are they to gain knowledge? From where does the development of wisdom come? And if they take on-board the folly of false teachers, will they not forever cause you grief?

The Problem

Now this is where the problem lies: when we fail to teach our children according to God’s instructions, they take on the ideals of this world, whether through the people they encounter on a daily basis; through the media or by our actions. And when we see them acting contrary to what we would like them towe rebuke them. We may punish them, by taking away or reducing their privileges but that only confuses them for, in effect, this is what we have taught them.

We allow the media to tell our children how to live because we are too busy providing for their basic needs. We have over-extended ourselves in areas not involving our family and so we are not tuned in to the cries of our children. But wherever we fail, there is always someone or something waiting to pick up the pieces. Why is this happening? Because we have provoked our children to wrath and in a state of confusion, they can no longer separate wrong from right. They are introduced to ‘substances’ that will damage them. But because it puts them on a ‘high’, making them feel good, for a little while, the people providing these substances are now their role models, for they have tapped into that part of our children that we, as parents, have failed to tap into.

With these new role-models, they have no need for their parents, so they no longer listen to what we have to say. Then we label them as rebellious.

I urge you to look at the root of the problem instead of the end result, that’s the only way forward. Are you doing all that you can to help your child succeed in life?

Janice S Ramkissoon 2008

Janice, a freelance writer, lives in the UK and enjoys spending time with her husband, Vince and their son, Javin. She uses her gift to encourage others towards a deeper relationship with God, through her inspirational pieces while her travel articles provide general advice for the holiday-maker.

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Discover “Conservative Homeschooler-Raising a Generation for Christ”

November 4, 2010

What is “Conservative Homeschooler-Raising a Generation for Christ”?

We are a conservative christian, free online homeschool community for homeschooling families that are dedicated to raising children whom stand apart from the world but stand up for Christ.

6 Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.
(Proverbs 22:6, New King James Version)

This is a community that is committed to raising our children by what our Heavenly Father calls out to us and not by what the world calls out to us.

2 Thus says the LORD:
“ Do not learn the way of the Gentiles;
Do not be dismayed at the signs of heaven,
For the Gentiles are dismayed at them.
(Jeremiah 10:2, New King James Version)

“Conservative Homeschooler-Raising a Generation for Christ” offers families who are seeking faith, fellowship, encouragement and friendship in a world that is often confusing or demanding for conformity to its values.

2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. (Romans 12:2, New King James Version)

“Conservative Homeschooler-Raising a Generation for Christ” provides a little bit of everything for the homeschooling family, the homeschool graduate heading for college or life in the secular world, or even grandparents, who have taken up the mantle to homeschool their grandkids.

6And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes.And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. (Deuteronomy 6:6-9, King James Version)

We have:

  • Ongoing live chat/studies on biblical topics such as motherhood, parenting, bible study, christian living and more
  • Informative and fun discussions on our message board
  • Great groups that are growing each time
  • Fellowship with like minded believers who believe our Father comes first, not the world
  • Homeschool resources for both new, maturing and veteran homeschoolers

and we are constantly growing as we seek to be a resource for families who are looking to grow in and through Jesus Christ.

5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, (2 Corinthians 10:5, New King James Version)

So when you have the time, we invite you to come by and visit the, “Conservative Homeschooler-Raising a Generation for Christ” and see what we, prayerfully, can offer to you!

7 But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin. (1 John 1:7, New King James Version)

Enter to win Download N Go’s Pizza Party!

September 4, 2010

Have you started your school year yet?

We started this week and used Pizza Party for it! I thought that

Download N Go

Pizza Party

by Amanda Bennett

is a great way to kick off the school year!

This fits well with my Geography study for the kids. They can visit Italy as well as other places and what they like on their pizza! I love that it includes elements of all subjects in it and that it can be broken down into a fun lapbook for the kids to make! There are tons of resources that we can use with this study to make it work for us! We aren’t stuck on just using the ones she’s given us. I like that - it is as big of a project or as little of a project as we want it to be!

As I said in my last study you don’t have to be a homeschooler to enjoy this, this is full of activities for kids K-grade 4. Teachers or parents just looking for something for their children to do that’s educational and fun!

Think of it as small projects to keep little minds and hands busy!

There is so much in this unit study. It is 112 pages filled with science, geography, handwriting, poems, and all things pizza!

Here is a break down of the study:

Day 1: Pizza—What Is It?
Day 2: The Story of Pizza
Day 3: Types of Pizza
Day 4: The Science of Pizza
Day 5: Let’s Have a Pizza Party

Our favorite part was the Pizza Party at the end, I mean what better way to finish off the week than by making your favorite pizza! The kids were encouraged to try new things on their pizza (like Italian sausage and mini sweet red peppers). They had a blast rolling dough and of course tasting their creations at the end!

I will be using this study again I’m sure!

Want to learn more about it?

http://downloadngo.com/PizzaParty.php

Or check out what others have to say about it :  http://homeschoolblogger.com/downloadngo/?p=356

Curious in winning a copy?

I’ve got one free copy to give away on my blog! A great addition to any child’s education!

Just leave a comment on this post and the winner will be announced August 20th!

Extra entries for FB, Twitter, and passing it out are welcome too! just use the extra comment to make sure you get the entries!

Contest closes Sept 11th

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Can’t wait that long?

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